Before I start I just want to mention I love my parents a lot. And I respect parents in general I know how much they sacrifice for us. This is one side of the story, no hard feelings for parents. Having said that lets get started.
There is so much to say that I don’t know where to start.
Okay, So we all have certain beliefs right?
Suppose I like strawberry ice cream and you don’t but I force you to eat it anyways. You can eat it, it won’t kill you but would you enjoy it? Would you be happy? No right.
It’s the same. Our parents try to force their beliefs, their likes and dislikes on us.
Lets me give a small example.
I had a friend who was very good in cricket. He loved playing cricket. Most of his time was spend playing it but his father was a lawyer and he wanted him to be a lawyer too.
Indian kids are too obedient I tell you. He did what his father wanted. He gave up his dreams to fulfil his fathers. He has a good job but he isn’t satisfied. He is doing it just for the sake of money.
There is one more problem with Indian parents. They love there kids too much. Yes you read it right. You must be thinking how can that be a problem. Trust me it is.
When a kid chooses a life partner for themselves our parents automatically assume that person we chose is a not right for us. Something or other is not right for their Child. It might be the parents, family background, family status, religion, caste etc etc. And funnily we don’t have any control over these matters. Things that we do have control over like the kind of person we are, or our achievements, our success these are just over looked.
Indian kids as I told you are much too obedient. It’s like in our gene. We give up on love just to get our parents approval. To make them happy. In Hindi if I should say ‘apne maa baap ko khus karne k liye apni gand maar lete ha’ . I am not going to translate that.
We marry the person chosen by our parents. Its a marriage without love. Don’t worry we do have sex. Sex without love. Parents are very happy with that. To see their kids be married to a person they don’t love.
They even like the fake smiles on our faces. Trust me they know its fake. They have brought us up they can tell.
I should not rant anymore. This of course does not apply for all parents and not for all kids.
If any parent are reading this I would just like to ask you ‘do you want to see the shell of a person without an opinion or belief. Agreeing to everything you say like your puppet. Is that why you raised up your kids so that they can bend to your will someday?
Just let them be. Let them see the world. Let them fall, let them make mistakes. Let them take wrong decisions. Its time for you to let go.